Initially it may seem easy to set a goal, but often people enjoy thinking about the plan and often forget the end result of actually making it a reality. That is the plan.
So just how to we plan to achieve a goal once we have set it for ourselves? And how do we help our children plan for their own goals?
Set a goal
Firstly your child will want to have a goal in mind that is unique to them. To help guide your child into choosing a goal that’s right for them, you may find it useful to read “20 New Year’s resolution ideas for children”. You may also find it useful to read how to set realistic, achievable goals in “Should your child make New Year’s resolution”.
Once your child has found something they would like to achieve, here’s were you can help.
We want our children to have the best chance of success in all aspects of life. This does not mean that we never want them to experience failure, but we want them to be able to put as many steps in place to make their goal work. This is an element of preemptive problem solving. Which is a useful skill that can help support your child think about how to respond to potential problems before they arise.
First we want to encourage our child to think about how they can reach their goal. What changes do they have to put in? When do they need to make these changes? Overall helping them shape their perfect plan.
Preemptive thinking skills.
Then comes the potential problems. What will you do if this happens? What will happen if this doesn’t work? What could you do instead?
The best way to support your child with this is asking them questions, rather than answering questions. Use these questions as prompts to encourage your child to think of their own solutions.
If all goes well, the result your child is left with may be exactly what they envisioned . Equally, it may be completely different. This could be something better than they initially imagined or something worse.
Whatever the final result, it is important that your child reflects on what improved and why. This self reflection process will encourage your child to take steps in the future to improve. Rather than having a pessimistic attitude of “This didn’t work, it will never work”. It is also important to look at what didn’t work and why.
Could it be that your child didn’t stick to the plan they made? Why didn’t they? Could it be that their goal was too big and needs a longer time to reach?
Once your child answers these questions, they will be better equipped to set goals for themselves in the future and this could be the start of a confident journey of seeking out self achievement.